These two have always completed each other in the best way possible. Full of wild ideas and big love.
If I have discovered something to be true, it’s that we all need to find our tribe. The tribe where you belong to the people who accept you for all that you are. Flaws. Crazy ideas. Quirks. They are never leaving you. So find someone who can tolerate all of them - not change you to make you “better.” These are the souls who make us feel like we belong to something bigger.
I used to think I could change people and form them into the image in my head…you know the one: it fits nicely into the picture you imagine of your life. (Ohhhh to be 20 again!)
One day it dawned on me that in my desperation to change people, I was the one who began to change. I bowed and curtsied to anyone who needed anything from me. I became what others wanted. And when it became too much, the relationships failed. It happened every single time. I lost big love. I lost family. I lost myself. All because I didn’t know how to be me.
One of the reasons I let this happen was because what I THOUGHT I needed was love. And to get that love, meant to seek the approval of anyone and everyone around me. I had no convictions. I had no person. I became a shell of a human just to feel love. I put myself on the line far too often. And while I think in some form I have always been myself, I never really learned how to be ME.
Today is a new day. I am ready to stand my ground and be who I need to be. I am ready to tell you my political bent. I am ready to stand up for the things I believe in. It’s easier now than ever before because I have my people….that tribe that loves me as I am. It’s not as big as it once was, but this time I know it’s real.
And real is all I ever needed. There is nothing else but real. Because that, my friends, is where the love is. And the love is where your tribe is.
So keep being you. Not that person on instagram or Facebook. Not your neighbor or your friend. Your house doesn’t need to look like a magazine or catalog. You just need to surround yourself with things that are authentically you. Friends. Love. And real life.
Trust me on this one.